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<blockquote data-quote="Thomas Shey" data-source="post: 9619633" data-attributes="member: 7026617">Ask them.&nbsp; Don't just assume its okay because no one has said anything.&nbsp; And if you don't think you're getting an answer, accept that they may not like what you're doing but still would rather play than not, don't go around making claims about them being happy with how you run things that you don't actually know is there.There can be a fundamental problem between groups and GMs where players want things their GM can't give them, but they'd rather play than not.&nbsp; Its easy to say &quot;Go find a better match&quot; but there are any number of reasons people won't do that.&nbsp; The GM isn't automatically a bad guy there, but he shouldn't kid himself he's doing something he's not; that turns it from an imperfect situation to one where he's being dishonest to make himself feel better, and there's no excuse for that.And you never know, if you go to the trouble of digging into it, maybe there's some compromise that can be made that will make the game better for one or more players without making the game unpleasant for the GM and other players.&nbsp; But as long as the GM is the one with the most power, its going to have to come from his end because its entirely probable one or more players won't initiate a conversation that as far as they know might leave them without a game.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Thomas Shey, post: 9619633, member: 7026617"] Ask them. Don't just assume its okay because no one has said anything. And if you don't think you're getting an answer, accept that they may not like what you're doing but still would rather play than not, don't go around making claims about them being happy with how you run things that you don't actually know is there. There can be a fundamental problem between groups and GMs where players want things their GM can't give them, but they'd rather play than not. Its easy to say "Go find a better match" but there are any number of reasons people won't do that. The GM isn't automatically a bad guy there, but he shouldn't kid himself he's doing something he's not; that turns it from an imperfect situation to one where he's being dishonest to make himself feel better, and there's no excuse for that. And you never know, if you go to the trouble of digging into it, maybe there's some compromise that can be made that will make the game better for one or more players without making the game unpleasant for the GM and other players. But as long as the GM is the one with the most power, its going to have to come from his end because its entirely probable one or more players won't initiate a conversation that as far as they know might leave them without a game. [/QUOTE]

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