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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Zelda Themelin" data-source="post: 5697321" data-attributes="member: 167">I have similar problem. It doesn't matter if I stop playing computer games/rpg/anything fun, I still avoid doing those things I don't want to start even if it means I am shooting my own leg that way.Best thing is just moderate those things you like to do, not stop them. And find out why you are avoiding doing something. For me it feels I am already failed not matter what I do. Some test, some finishing school, getting job/better job etc. cleaning the house, fixing my collection of books, keeping up something  Whatever, I come up with any excuse no matter how pointless and boring to avoid that, which is my issue. I "forget it", I will tell myself "tomorrow", "any day now".I think rpg:s actually make me feel better. And I know from experience that stopping doing things you like to do things you are avoiding to do, only tends to drive me at least, to lands of depression and general "just giving up":If your issue is coming from low self-esteem, stream of failures and bad luck generally in life, don't give up things that still give you positive feelings. Moderate them. And try to find some other outlets as well, maybe going out for walks, or finding people to talk about what you are afraid of. Non-judgy people, because those conversations suck. People without similar problem don't just understand how hard it is start actually doing something you have pushed as far you can from your list of to-do things.Sometimes there is no small steps, so things are just do or don't. Moments to do somethings right tend to expire. On the other hand if you kinda avoid to do some things to be lazy, when you are actually overworking yourself with hobby. Ask any long-time WoW-player. Keep track what you eat, how much you sleep, how well, and how often you get fresh air and do some physical stuff. Lack of those things build more avoidance problems for me. Also there is little one can do for loosing intrest for something, like hobby, or finishing particular school. You have to find something of intrest about those things if you consider re-starting them. Otherwise you are setting yourself for another "permission to fail".I am currenly in situation where I only have bad choices, so I choose to do worse of them all, I do nothing.I suggest you train yourself out of that avoidance habit as fast as you can. I wish you luck, I didnt make it. Maybe next year...</blockquote>

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