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Message: <blockquote data-quote="J_D" data-source="post: 1857581" data-attributes="member: 20956">This is regretful.What I'm about to say may be considered by some to be insensitive or "politically incorrect" (in the cultural meaning of that phrase; I post no politics here), but it's what I think.It is sad that this person has a medical condition that prevents him from participating as effectively as the others.  I'd have sympathy for him and hope that he can get the medical help needed to overcome the condition.  However, that said, as things stand now I'm not so sure this person really belongs in the group.  If I'm going to have a group activity for the purpose of fun, then I expect and require that everyone in the group to contribute to that fun when appropriate and not be disruptive while waiting for their turn.  That's the bottom line.  If an individual can't contribute without being disruptive then he doesn't belong in the group; it's that simple.  Why he can't contribute without being disruptive is irrelevant to the issue of group participation; it's only relevant to how you feel about him.  Someone who has a medical reason he can't contribute can be viewed sympathetically while the person who is disruptive because he's a jerk can be viewed as negatively as you like, but regardless of the reason why he's like that, if he's disruptive he doesn't belong.  If a player's disruptive and he can't or won't change the disruptive behavior, then boot away.  You can sympathetically boot or contemptuously boot depending on the reason why, but boot.As far as Starman's suggested solution to give the ADD person a deck of cards to keep their hands busy, I don't think that would work either.  I'd find that someone continually shuffling a deck of cards at the table would be just as distracting and disruptive to me as their lack of attention or "bouncing off the walls".  If you absolutely have to find some way to accomodate the ADD person, it's got to be a way that will be much less distracting or disruptive than their normal behavior.  Personally, I have never understood the attitude that if doing something has some prerequisite or requirement a person can't meet that others who can meet it have to bend over backwards to make allowances for the person who can't just so that person can "participate".</blockquote>

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