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<blockquote data-quote="Kahuna Burger" data-source="post: 3656986" data-attributes="member: 8439">So, if you were living with a group of people who you did not enjoy at all, would you change your behavior, try to change them, or, if it just so happened that there was no lease and you could move at will, change which people you were living with?It is NOT easier to change yourself to fit in with a group. It is frustrating and ulimately hopeless. If it's a matter of being practical the answer is simple. Say &quot;I'm obviously not the right DM for you guys, hopefully one of you can pick up the slack while I look for a group that fits my style better.&quot;Just because the title of the page is &quot;Save my game&quot; doesn't mean that the answer needs to be &quot;crush your own spirit in order to continue serving this particular group.&quot; The Kid's game cannot be saved. There is too much of a mismatch in player/DM style. Advocating that a group limp along with an unhappy DM ignoring his fun in order to tailor everything to player style is horrible advice, and I can only hope this kid is smart enough to ignore it. It's pretty obvious from even a casual perusal of this site that there are a lot of different, mutually exclusive playstyles out there. There are many perfectly pleasant, techinically competent DMs and players posting here who I would sit at home playing minesweeper every night of the week before I would play in a group with. It's very sad to me that a kid just starting out and making a real effort in DMing is basicly told to adopt a different playstyle (or by implication and more likely the long term effect, give up DMing.)</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Kahuna Burger, post: 3656986, member: 8439"] So, if you were living with a group of people who you did not enjoy at all, would you change your behavior, try to change them, or, if it just so happened that there was no lease and you could move at will, change which people you were living with? It is NOT easier to change yourself to fit in with a group. It is frustrating and ulimately hopeless. If it's a matter of being practical the answer is simple. Say "I'm obviously not the right DM for you guys, hopefully one of you can pick up the slack while I look for a group that fits my style better." Just because the title of the page is "Save my game" doesn't mean that the answer needs to be "crush your own spirit in order to continue serving this particular group." The Kid's game cannot be saved. There is too much of a mismatch in player/DM style. Advocating that a group limp along with an unhappy DM ignoring his fun in order to tailor everything to player style is horrible advice, and I can only hope this kid is smart enough to ignore it. It's pretty obvious from even a casual perusal of this site that there are a lot of different, mutually exclusive playstyles out there. There are many perfectly pleasant, techinically competent DMs and players posting here who I would sit at home playing minesweeper every night of the week before I would play in a group with. It's very sad to me that a kid just starting out and making a real effort in DMing is basicly told to adopt a different playstyle (or by implication and more likely the long term effect, give up DMing.) [/QUOTE]

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