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<blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 2404780" data-attributes="member: 99">Everything I've ever seen you (and Force User) post here has led me to believe that you're a pretty excellent GM with a good group, Hjorimir.&nbsp; I wish you luck in getting this thing resolved and I think it will probably work itself out.I caution you against seeing Bob as &quot;playing wrong&quot; or having &quot;Wrongbad Fun&quot;.&nbsp; Bob is just playing the game in the way that makes him happy and fulfills the reason that he enjoys gaming in the first place.&nbsp; We all do it and it is great when those approaches work adequately or even synergistically together.&nbsp; But when they don't it doesn't mean that anybody is a &quot;jerk&quot; or is intentionally ruining the game for the rest of the group.&nbsp; It just means that they have fun in a different way.Does this mean that I think everybody needs to play with anybody who wants to no matter how their styles might clash?&nbsp; Of course not.&nbsp; But if we can compromise and work together to include them then I think that is the nice and compationate thing to do rather than kick them to the curb and tell them to find another group or to attempt to force them to change their style of gaming.&nbsp; And that goes (at least) double for people who are our friends.I think you'll probably have the most success in finding the middle path (as Henry puts it) if you can come up with very specific compromises you're willing to make and to ask him for very succinct (and small) compromises in return.&nbsp; I think people are always more willing to meet you halfway when they can already see you walking toward them.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Rel, post: 2404780, member: 99"] Everything I've ever seen you (and Force User) post here has led me to believe that you're a pretty excellent GM with a good group, Hjorimir. I wish you luck in getting this thing resolved and I think it will probably work itself out. I caution you against seeing Bob as "playing wrong" or having "Wrongbad Fun". Bob is just playing the game in the way that makes him happy and fulfills the reason that he enjoys gaming in the first place. We all do it and it is great when those approaches work adequately or even synergistically together. But when they don't it doesn't mean that anybody is a "jerk" or is intentionally ruining the game for the rest of the group. It just means that they have fun in a different way. Does this mean that I think everybody needs to play with anybody who wants to no matter how their styles might clash? Of course not. But if we can compromise and work together to include them then I think that is the nice and compationate thing to do rather than kick them to the curb and tell them to find another group or to attempt to force them to change their style of gaming. And that goes (at least) double for people who are our friends. I think you'll probably have the most success in finding the middle path (as Henry puts it) if you can come up with very specific compromises you're willing to make and to ask him for very succinct (and small) compromises in return. I think people are always more willing to meet you halfway when they can already see you walking toward them. [/QUOTE]

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