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<blockquote data-quote="Thornir Alekeg" data-source="post: 2328314" data-attributes="member: 15651">Hmmm, so what is your definition of &quot;true feelings?&quot; It must be different from mine if you think it is not possible to stay friends with them.&nbsp; Or maybe it is the definition of &quot;remaining friends.&quot;&nbsp; I dated one girl for many years.&nbsp; We talked about marriage, but both felt we were a little too young to push it at that time.&nbsp; When we finally broke up, it was not a nice break-up.&nbsp; I spent a while nursing some pretty nasty feelings towards her, it felt better to be angry than hurt.&nbsp; About a year later, all the hurt had eased and I realized the anger wasn't needed.&nbsp; I met her again and her fiance through a mutual friend.&nbsp; I saw how good this guy was for her and how happy she was.&nbsp; I used those &quot;true feelings&quot; I had for her for so many years to be happy for her and put aside any remaining selfish hurt I had.&nbsp; Of course she may have regretted the resumption of our friendship the night we all drank a little too much and her fiance heard a few stories that she had never told him.&nbsp; <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink&nbsp; &nbsp; ;)"&nbsp; data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />&nbsp; I still was invited to the wedding even after that.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Thornir Alekeg, post: 2328314, member: 15651"] Hmmm, so what is your definition of "true feelings?" It must be different from mine if you think it is not possible to stay friends with them. Or maybe it is the definition of "remaining friends." I dated one girl for many years. We talked about marriage, but both felt we were a little too young to push it at that time. When we finally broke up, it was not a nice break-up. I spent a while nursing some pretty nasty feelings towards her, it felt better to be angry than hurt. About a year later, all the hurt had eased and I realized the anger wasn't needed. I met her again and her fiance through a mutual friend. I saw how good this guy was for her and how happy she was. I used those "true feelings" I had for her for so many years to be happy for her and put aside any remaining selfish hurt I had. Of course [i] she [/i] may have regretted the resumption of our friendship the night we all drank a little too much and her fiance heard a few stories that she had never told him. ;) I still was invited to the wedding even after that. [/QUOTE]

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