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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Hijinks" data-source="post: 2784680" data-attributes="member: 31094">I also don't mind strip clubs.  I've been in them and I usually enjoy the music and atmosphere.  I think I have a healthy attitude towards sex and relationships.  My boyfriend used to get Playboy, which was fine with me.  Men are visual creatures and they like to look at naked women.  I understand that and don't mind it.If my boyfriend came to me and told me the story that was the first post of this very long thread, I wouldn't have had a problem with it at all.  I, personally, almost never get compliments.  I grew up in a family where I was constantly critized for the way I looked, never anything positive.  I'm a plain woman, and I know that and am (usually) ok with it.  I know I'm not beautiful, and will never be.That said, I do get offended when men who are in the same room with me make jokes about fat or ugly women, even if not directing them at me.  I may not consider myself ugly, but I do think I'm plain; I think many men that I meet think I'm less worthy of talking to than other women, because I'm less attractive.  That's just the way the world works.  Whatever.  I don't think plain people, or fat people, should naturally be the butt of jokes.  This is a sore spot with me because recently, a person I considered a friend was talking to someone sitting beside me about "one-bag women," i.e. women that you only have to put a bag over her head, as opposed to "two-bag women," which means a bag over hers, and a bag over the man's).  It hurt my feelings because I know I don't measure up to his standards of what constitutes a real woman, because I'm not beautiful.  I do have features that I think are pretty - my eyes, hair, hands.  When I get a compliment on a feature, I cherish it.  Because they are so unusual for me.  So I would personally encourage my bf - or another man - to compliment a woman on her features, if he feels it's not something she hears enough.  From the way the original poster described the woman's reaction, it made her day.</blockquote>

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