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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Maerdwyn" data-source="post: 2726789" data-attributes="member: 835">(I agree with those who have suggested counseling  - that should come first in my opinion.  This is for after you've set that up...)In my experience, self confidence/good self esteem, etc.  are not something you achieve, but rather, by-products of achievement in something you care about. As you suggested, if there's no reason for you to be proud of yourself, you won't be, or you'll just be unjustifiably proud of yourself, which isn't much better (That descibes a bunch of people I know, and they're insufferable).If what you are doing now, as far as your work and personal life go, doesn't fill with pride or at least respect for yourself, then find something that does.  To start, I would suggest starting to do something that is not centered on yourself - do some good for someone else or a group of people, without looking for any tangible benefit to yourself.  Giving blood is great - how about spending a day at a blood bank helping out?   Volunteer in a school, a hospital, a church, a political or environmental cause, etc.  It can be something big, or if you are apprehensive about it at first, something small - even just a single day's work at something you will feel good about having done afterwards, and especially, during.   No one is going to be calling you ugly or trying to avoid you, etc. if you are working towards a similar goal with them, and you'll get your mind off yourself and self pity while at the same time doing something decent or good for the society around you.</blockquote>

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