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Message: <blockquote data-quote="BSF" data-source="post: 2726965" data-attributes="member: 13098">Aaron,To be quite honest, I don't see what is so terrible about you.  Sure, you have some challenges that other people might not need to deal with.  But you also have some real strengths.  I wish I could give blood on a regular basis.  But I totally freak out when it comes to needles.  It has been something that I haven't been willing to address in my life.  You walk 5-10 miles a day?  That's great!  I'll tell you what, when I was running in high school, I would have people try to be jerks as they drove past.  They aren't the type of people worth wasting any time on.  I had football players try to deride me for being a runner.  Mostly they were jealous at our success earned through hard work.  It sounds like you have truly sorry neighbors in your town.  Don't let them drag you down through their own pettiness and fear.  You are better than that.Being depressed is a tough gig.  But the best way out of it is to seize control for yourself.  It's great that your mother is there to help you.  But you also need to take some responsibility for yourself.If you have trouble remembering doctor's appointments, come up with a solution to fix that.  Get a calendar if you need to.  Write down the day and time in the calendar.  Every single morning, get up and check to see if you have something planned.  Do this every single day!  Make it a habit!  Check the software on your computer for calendar reminders or scheduling.  Add appointments to this as well.  Setup reminders.  Make it habit to check every single day.  Add in schedules and reminders for medicine.  Take the responsibility for yourself.  Get that routine down because there is no reason for you to feel helpless about it.Why can't you make appointments for yourself?  Are you unfamiliar with the procedure?  Is there insurance information you don't have?  Are you afraid you don't remember your schedule?  Or is it just that doing it the first time terrifies you?  You don't even need to post an answer, but at least answer it for yourself.  Identifying the problem is the first step towards solving it.  You can learn procedures.  You can learn, or at least write down for reference, insurance information.  You will be creating a schedule (see above) so you will overcome that obstacle.  Go ahead and talk to the people that schedule the doctor's time.  If you have to, tell them this is the first time you are taking care of it yourself.  The only way to overcome fear is to address it.Perhaps part of your problem is that you see the entire issue as one, huge problem and it seems overwhelming?  The key is to break everything down into small steps.  I bet you have better organizational skills than you think you do.  You just need to practice at it and get better.  We are throwing a lot of different ideas at you.  We don't expect that you will try all of them all at once.  Pick one at a time.  Address one problem at a time.  Make small, incremental changes that slowly turn your life around in a direction you want it to be going.  Sometimes one plan won't work out.  Then you need to step back, come up with a new plan and try again.  There are over 40 people replying to this thread.  Remember that there are quite a few people here that want you to succeed.  We think you are a pretty cool guy.  But there is only so much that we can tell you.  At some point, you have to take control of yourself.  Only you can actually do something about making your life better.  You have some great qualities, take the time to see them for what they are.</blockquote>

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