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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Spell" data-source="post: 2729642" data-attributes="member: 19718">Honestly, Aaron, you can do something.i am also having problems finding girls, and i'm also VERY picky on top. but that is not the end of the world.the end of the world is your attitude. you fail not because you're bad, but because you think you're not.have a look around. how many a**holes can you see? i see many, every day. i'm sure every single one of us does. and still they seem to succeed.why? because they don't think they lack something.you lack this or that? of course you do. you know what? we all miss something to really like ourselves. we can always be smarter, cooler, and what not. you think you are a freak? good! freaks are more interesting. you are a nerd or a geek? great! show'em this link: <a href="http://sfbayarea.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/66795671.html" target="_blank">http://sfbayarea.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/66795671.html</a>it's not what you are, but your attitude. sitting in a bar drinking won't help any problem you have. and, from what i can see, it doesn't make you feel better, too. and i think it has been instrumental in losing friends and respect of yourself.my advice is:1. forget about doctors. i don't trust them. some of them might be good, but you said you have seen them all your life with no help resulting. well, don't invest money in that. forget about syndromes, depression, diseases, and all that junk. i can't say i have ever talked with a person that i can define as completely normal. what exactly is the definition of normality, anyway?if you are actually having difficulty finding a job and living out of the money the social security is giving you, move to a cheaper area.but don't let physical problems bring you down. there are plenty of successful people ut there with one impairment or another. realise that it could always be worse.2. DO stop drinking. it will be difficult, but it's well worth it.3. DO get a proper healthy diet. i have seen on myself that eating junk food or non homemade food for as little as two months made me fat, paranoid, aggressive, negative and so on. i had to, at the time, as there was no other solution and i knew it was going to end soon. if you can't chage your diet for any reason, well, do the impossible. having a healthy diet will help you in a way you can't imagine. and it's also usually way cheaper than buying food outside.4. the important thing is not trying, but trying in the right way. everybody makes effort. those that are most successful at whatever are not trying harder, are just trying better, 99% of the time. check this book out: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0786869143/102-8046139-2081752?v=glance&n=283155&n=507846&s=books&v=glance" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0786869143/102-8046139-2081752?v=glance&n=283155&n=507846&s=books&v=glance</a>it's really worth its money.5. put that "my personality is repulsive" <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> out of my face. i have seen the sleaziest persons getting the best girls. i have seen people with the iq and the personality of a broken lightbulb getting laid. your personality is just like anyone else's. it has good points and bad points. if you don't learn to accept yourself, nobody will. honest.6. people are surprised when i tell them i'm shy. but i am. the key point is, as someone already has said, if you have nothing to lose, you can't hurt yourself. if you are asking a girl out, even if you are the most lurid and repulsive weirdo, you are paying her a compliment. would you feel guilty or uneasy to make a random compliment to a girl? i don't think so. (if that's the case, work on that, too).if she acts like you have outraged her or something, well, it's the wrong type of woman. it's not a defeat, it's actually a victory: imagine what catastrophe would it be, going out with such a stupid woman! imagine how much time have you saved! rejoyce!7. realise that you ARE looking for advice. else, why posting in teh first place? i don't believe that drunk people do things that are alien to themselves. even if you are not looking for advice, i think you have enough sensible stuff in these pages to collect in a book. you have found something valuable without looking. how about taking this unwanted gift and making something out of it? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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