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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Cabled" data-source="post: 2729667" data-attributes="member: 23297">Yep, you have a chance <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Ok Aaron, time for some seriousness.  Lots of good advice here, your "toolbox" is probably fuller now than most of the people here before this thread started up.  Think on that one for a minute...because You asked the question, a lot of people here have seen different ideas, strategies, and approaches.  Your life stands to be better if you follow some or all of them, but so do some other people's here too, I guarantee it, whether anyone ever says so or not.  Simply by asking, you've inadverdently enriched some other folks' lives...purty cool huh?A little anecdote, you you have to read it  <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/devious.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":]" title="Devious    :]" data-shortname=":]" />   When I was in high school a good time ago, I was in the same boat you're in...not the same place on the boat, but in the boat.  I'd get so nervous some days just walking into class that I'd skip classes...just couldn't walk into a room full of people, some of whom were even friends.  I hated it, I knew it was silly...still couldn't do it.  My senior year, I signed up for drama...I was going to make myself get on stage or die one or the other.  I will forever remember the first night I went on stage...I'll sum it up in three words for you......Scary As HellBut I lived of course, and that's my point here for you.  Learn to separate the Scary things from the Dangerous things.  EVERY time you go to take a step and something's scary (substitute "uncomfortable", "unknown", or "unpredictable"...you know what I'm getting at) ask yourself that question.. "Is this dangerous, or just scary?"  If it's just scary, take the step...scary things make you tough.  If it's IS dangerous, then don't and rightly so, and that says nothing about your confidence, masculinity, or anything else.Something else too, that Warlord made me think of, with his pirate comment.  If you've never seen it, watch "Pirates of the Caribbean"  If you have seen it, watch it again.  A couple times.  And for two hours, watch Johnny Depp stagger around the screen as Jack Sparrow.  You're not looking at pickup lines, or hygiene, or anything you can SEE on the screen...you're watching a man who for two hours doesn't have the first clue what's going on or where he'll be in thirty seconds...but he's the only one that ever knows that.  It was mentioned a few times early in the thread, and I'll say it again.  Learn to fake it!  Learn to adlib!  Not permanently, just in between the spots where you know what you're doing.  You'll find as time goes by, the spots where you know what you're doing get longer, and the spots in between get shorter.  Trust me.</blockquote>

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