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<blockquote data-quote="Bagpuss" data-source="post: 6071381" data-attributes="member: 3987">Ah with this being a gaming forum and your original examples being about gaming. I thought perhaps foolishly you were talking in a gaming context.Depends on how reasonable the request is, I would expect to get a yes most of the time. Since I tend not to make impossible requests from people.More often than not, again it depends on how the request is phrased and if I am able to fulfil it. With a child is different as if you say yes to them all the time they would most likely live on a diet of sweets.Can't think of many occasions I've said a straight out no, in fact I would say, saying no isn't as easy as you make out. Most people want to be liked and so will do things to please others even if it puts them out a little. I would say most people, rather than say no, are more likely to make up an excuse for not being able to do something, or attend an event than just straight out say no.Say you get an invite to a wedding and reception of a not particularly close friend. The wedding is some distance away so it would either mean a long late night drive home (and no drinking at the reception) or paying for a hotel. Then there is the cost of the gift, etc. You don't really want to go, nobody else you know is going, but you don't want to be seen to be rude. Most people would tend not just say no. They either say yes and go or they make up some excuse that they can't attend on that day.Can I suggest you read <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Yes-Man-Danny-Wallace/dp/0091896746" target="_blank">Yes Man by Danny Wallance</a>. Not just watch the film with Jim Carrey</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Bagpuss, post: 6071381, member: 3987"] Ah with this being a gaming forum and your original examples being about gaming. I thought perhaps foolishly you were talking in a gaming context. Depends on how reasonable the request is, I would expect to get a yes most of the time. Since I tend not to make impossible requests from people. More often than not, again it depends on how the request is phrased and if I am able to fulfil it. With a child is different as if you say yes to them all the time they would most likely live on a diet of sweets. Can't think of many occasions I've said a straight out no, in fact I would say, saying no isn't as easy as you make out. Most people want to be liked and so will do things to please others even if it puts them out a little. I would say most people, rather than say no, are more likely to make up an excuse for not being able to do something, or attend an event than just straight out say no. Say you get an invite to a wedding and reception of a not particularly close friend. The wedding is some distance away so it would either mean a long late night drive home (and no drinking at the reception) or paying for a hotel. Then there is the cost of the gift, etc. You don't really want to go, nobody else you know is going, but you don't want to be seen to be rude. Most people would tend not just say no. They either say yes and go or they make up some excuse that they can't attend on that day. Can I suggest you read [URL="http://www.amazon.com/Yes-Man-Danny-Wallace/dp/0091896746"]Yes Man by Danny Wallance[/URL]. Not just watch the film with Jim Carrey [/QUOTE]

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