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<blockquote data-quote="Nellisir" data-source="post: 6072532" data-attributes="member: 70">I feel like there's a subtext to this conversation that I'm missing.&nbsp; That's a little annoying, like the post is a way of gathering evidence to support an already-determined position.To answer the question as I understand it...all other factors aside, I try to say yes.&nbsp; However.In gaming circumstances, I am much more likely to say &quot;we'll see&quot; or &quot;I'll think about it&quot;.&nbsp; I don't like to give yes or no answers.In social situations, it depends on context.&nbsp; If you're going to ask me a yes or no question, you have to be prepared for either answer.&nbsp; Getting upset about not getting your way is a sure way to make sure you don't get your way.&nbsp; You should be prepared to explain your request.&nbsp; I will entertain a request, not a demand.&nbsp; Don't abuse it.&nbsp; You're more likely to get a positive result if you've done something positive for me, or I think that you will.All that said, I find I'm much more likely to get what I want if I ask with words instead of telepathy.&nbsp; Making a request creates clarity about what you want.&nbsp; I don't usually think it's rude, unless it's knowledge that's none of your business.And going back to gaming, asking if you will get a +1 sword is none of your business.&nbsp; You can say that you'd like a magic sword, but asking the DM outright is..well, you might as well ask her about the next monsters you'll face.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Nellisir, post: 6072532, member: 70"] I feel like there's a subtext to this conversation that I'm missing. That's a little annoying, like the post is a way of gathering evidence to support an already-determined position. To answer the question as I understand it...all other factors aside, I try to say yes. However. In gaming circumstances, I am much more likely to say "we'll see" or "I'll think about it". I don't like to give yes or no answers. In social situations, it depends on context. If you're going to ask me a yes or no question, you have to be prepared for either answer. Getting upset about not getting your way is a sure way to make sure you don't get your way. You should be prepared to explain your request. I will entertain a request, not a demand. Don't abuse it. You're more likely to get a positive result if you've done something positive for me, or I think that you will. All that said, I find I'm much more likely to get what I want if I ask with words instead of telepathy. Making a request creates clarity about what you want. I don't usually think it's rude, unless it's knowledge that's none of your business. And going back to gaming, asking if you will get a +1 sword is none of your business. You can say that you'd like a magic sword, but asking the DM outright is..well, you might as well ask her about the next monsters you'll face. [/QUOTE]

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