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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Celebrim" data-source="post: 468337" data-attributes="member: 4937">bondetamp: If you don't mind, you get to supplant Thomas Jefferson as my next signature.  Well said.Wil:1) No.  Unquestionably no.  I would launch into a rant on this one, but its already off topic and touchy enough.2) Yes.3) If telling the truth to your wife would irrepairably damage your marriage, then the marriage is already irrepairably damaged.  The only way to heal it is to tell the truth.  If you cannot tell the truth to the wife, then you cannot tell the truth to anyone.  IF you cannot be trusted to entrust the truth to your wife, you cannot be entrusted to tell the truth to anyone.   So tell your wife that she's gaining weight.  Tell your wife you don't like her mother.  That doesn't mean you have to be tactless, but you better find a way to communicate or the marriage is doomed anyway.   Tell the truth as soon as possible.  Tell the truth often.  Tell the truth always, and in this manner your marriage will never be shaken by anything.4) Adultery: Entertaining thoughts of or engaging in sexual activity with a person other than your spouse after you have enter the covenant of marriage with someone else.  Yes, of course it is wrong, although some would probably argue that an open marriage isn't a marriage at all but some other unique institution.  Nonetheless, it remains true that promiscious behavior of any sort is generally a bad thing.  You don't have to be close friends with all that many promiscious people to realize this, although it is unfortunately true that most people who have several promiscious friends are generally trying to get in someone's pants - which is part of my point of course.       Besides, I would think divorse has been common enough of an experiment, that the majority of my generation ought to conclude that whatever else might be true, a stable marriage is a good thing. 5) Coveting: An inordinate craving for material goods, usually the possessions of someone else.  (Also see 'greed'.)  This is one of those times 'inordinate' is very important.   Being hungery and going 'I could sure use a Hamburger' is not being covetous.  Being intellectually starved and going 'I could sure use a good book right now' is not being covetous.  Paying the bills and saying 'Man, I wish I was rich' is not being covetous.  See Enron, Global Crossing, Lucent Technologies, and so forth.  See the results of covetousness - thousands of lives destroyed, the work of ten's of thousands of lifetimes as good as burned - for the sake of a few dozen people.</blockquote>

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