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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Celebrim" data-source="post: 662367" data-attributes="member: 4937">I would have found it difficult to date a woman with no interest in gaming, sci-fi, science, computers, and the other classic interests of geekdom.  I would have found it impossible if such things were disdained.  When I met my wife, her interest was only casual.  She very much enjoyed Scrabble and Othello, but had no exposure to geek board games.  Her younger brother played D&D, but she had never been invited to a group and knew no peers active in gaming.  She read some fantasy and science fiction, and she adored Bradbury, but didn't have much guidance on where to look for good stories beyond the authors she had discovered in junior high.  She wanted to become a Biologist, but had little exposure to the technology of science and was not excited about it.  Since then, she has involved into something of her own gamer.   She loves to game, but it isn't necessarily the same things I love to play (though there is overlap).  She loves science fiction and fantasy, and enjoys most of the books I enjoy, but her favorites are different and some authors that one likes - the other just can't get into.  She has worked on the Space Shuttle, so now we have common excitement and affection for all 'cool things'.  So in short, she is a gamer - but she isn't a clone of me - which I respect.  And while her tastes aren't mine, she has very good taste.So, in short, yes.Given the fact that women are no longer taught (at least on the whole) that they have to be stupid in order to attract a man, or even that attracting a man ought to be the thing that they value themselves by, I shake my head in confusion at the number of hard-core-this-is-what-I-do gamers who seek out spouses who aren't gamers given that there are a lot of female gamers out there.  It always seems like such relationships are for doomed to burn down after six years and two kids.  What do you actually have in common with a small-talk conversing, socially competitive, socially conforming, intoxication as play, non-geek person?  Who are these non-geeks that gamers are marrying and why?  And if they are working (and that is a significant achievement in today's society), how are they working?  Please explain.Must be love I guess.</blockquote>

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