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<blockquote data-quote="Faolyn" data-source="post: 8468838" data-attributes="member: 6915329">You're callous. There's lots of reasons why that would bother someone--even though you seem to be implying that only people who have something &quot;wrong&quot; with them would be unhappy with in-game flirting.Personally, I have a fun combination of being aroace and being an Aspie. You flirt with me unexpectedly, even if it's 200% in character, I will completely freeze, blank out, and start to panic. I had to ask a DM to stop having NPCs flirt with me because it was causing me so many problems (and his flirting was super-gentle, with no expectations of it going anyway unless I took the lead) He was incredibly apologetic because he didn't realize it was bothering me. And then when you consider that a large number of people either have been sexually harassed in real life, who don't want to have a pretend romantic relationship with a real-life buddy, or who are playing the game because they want to kill monsters and take their stuff, not engage in sex or romance.The other thing is, your character didn't &quot;develop&quot; a crush on the other PC. Our characters aren't actually alive or have wills of their own. You deliberately chose to have your PC have a crush on another PC. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you were doing it purely for roleplaying purposes, and not because you wanted to freak out the other player or because you had feelings for him and wanted to have them play out in-game. (I've read horror stories about both of these happening.) In either case, it appears you didn't discuss it with the other player first. Not cool. The fact that he turned out to be monstrous in real life doesn't actually mean anything in this context. He would have been terrible even if you had never had your PC have a crush on him.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Faolyn, post: 8468838, member: 6915329"] You're callous. There's [I]lots [/I]of reasons why that would bother someone--even though you seem to be implying that only people who have something "wrong" with them would be unhappy with in-game flirting. Personally, I have a fun combination of being aroace and being an Aspie. You flirt with me unexpectedly, even if it's 200% in character, I will completely freeze, blank out, and start to panic. I had to ask a DM to stop having NPCs flirt with me because it was causing me so many problems (and his flirting was super-gentle, with no expectations of it going [I]anyway [/I]unless I took the lead) He was incredibly apologetic because he didn't realize it was bothering me. And then when you consider that a large number of people either have been sexually harassed in real life, who don't want to have a pretend romantic relationship with a real-life buddy, or who are playing the game because they want to kill monsters and take their stuff, not engage in sex or romance. The other thing is, your character didn't "develop" a crush on the other PC. Our characters aren't actually alive or have wills of their own. You deliberately chose to have your PC have a crush on another PC. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you were doing it purely for roleplaying purposes, and not because you wanted to freak out the other player or because you had feelings for him and wanted to have them play out in-game. (I've read horror stories about both of these happening.) In either case, it appears you didn't discuss it with the other player first. Not cool. The fact that he turned out to be monstrous in real life doesn't actually mean anything in this context. He would have been terrible even if you had never had your PC have a crush on him. [/QUOTE]

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