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<blockquote data-quote="Charlaquin" data-source="post: 9456412" data-attributes="member: 6779196">“I don’t want to play my players’ characters for them” is not the same thing as “if you do things differently you are playing your players’ characters for them.” Again, if you don’t feel that accepting a simple “history?” is playing your players’ characters for them, that’s great for you! Go forth and enjoy playing the way you like to play. To some of us, that does feel like playing their characters for them, and we don’t like doing that. We have different experiences of the game and different tolerances for what feels like overreaching on our own parts, and that’s ok.Right, because agency isn’t your bugaboo in this situation. You have, however, accused him of being childish and insinuated that there is an insufficient degree of trust between him and his players.Is he not allowed to express when he dislikes another DM’s call and explain why he would make a different one…? If not, what are we even doing here?To be fair, he’d be correct in saying that the books don’t suggest players should be able to call for their own skill checks. That doesn’t mean it’s “wrong” to allow it anyway, just as it isn’t “wrong” for me to, for example, rule that the Hide action doesn’t make you invisible despite that being contrary to what the rules suggest. The beauty of D&amp;D is that we can modify our procedures to suit our own preferences.No, you just shouldn’t ask someone why they rule a certain way and then get offended when they answer you. You’ve had these conversations enough times to know what’s going to happen, yet here we are again. Maybe try just living and letting live.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Charlaquin, post: 9456412, member: 6779196"] “I don’t want to play my players’ characters for them” is not the same thing as “if you do things differently you are playing your players’ characters for them.” Again, if you don’t feel that accepting a simple “history?” is playing your players’ characters for them, that’s great for you! Go forth and enjoy playing the way you like to play. To some of us, that does feel like playing their characters for them, and we don’t like doing that. We have different experiences of the game and different tolerances for what feels like overreaching on our own parts, and that’s ok. Right, because agency isn’t your bugaboo in this situation. You have, however, accused him of being childish and insinuated that there is an insufficient degree of trust between him and his players. Is he not allowed to express when he dislikes another DM’s call and explain why he would make a different one…? If not, what are we even doing here? To be fair, he’d be correct in saying that the books don’t suggest players should be able to call for their own skill checks. That doesn’t mean it’s “wrong” to allow it anyway, just as it isn’t “wrong” for me to, for example, rule that the Hide action doesn’t make you invisible despite that being contrary to what the rules suggest. The beauty of D&D is that we can modify our procedures to suit our own preferences. No, you just shouldn’t ask someone why they rule a certain way and then get offended when they answer you. You’ve had these conversations enough times to know what’s going to happen, yet here we are again. Maybe try just living and letting live. [/QUOTE]

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