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<blockquote data-quote="MarauderX" data-source="post: 966832" data-attributes="member: 9990">Zogg is on to something here...I dropped gaming for about 9 years and hung out with a different crowd for a while (non-gamers...some call them preps or players). I think what distinguishes someone as not-as-cool, not just gamers, is the Geek factor.&nbsp; Sometimes it's personal hygene, sometimes just how a person walks or their posture, but most of the time it is purely what someone says in public.&nbsp; I am proud that I play D&amp;D, but sometimes it just isn't cool to talk about it while waiting in line to see a band or during lunch with non-gamers.&nbsp; It's not that D&amp;D is evil or not cool, but it's like talking about politics or religion on the boards - just don't do it since it can hurt you socially, and there are no mods to smack you back into line.Here are some tips that I have helped my fellow guys with for catching babes; maybe they will help you maybe not, but they helped some guys I know add self-confidence and lessen the Geek factor.- Be calm.&nbsp; Don't get nervous or excited that often, try drinking less coffee/dew/coke.&nbsp; Think of your voice like a river that you want people to take a canoe on - try to keep it smooth and flowing instead of spitting out words as fast as you can like choppy rapids.&nbsp; Learn to have more patiences than anyone you know.&nbsp; - Only express vague opinions on all things geeky.&nbsp; Say 'the Matrix was cool' instead of 'the scenes with the flying stuff could have been 3D modeled better if they used the latest overlay programs for Maya'.&nbsp; - Be aware of how you look, everyday.&nbsp; Just because you are only going to the store to get some milk, check out your look.&nbsp; You don't like your hair?&nbsp; Pay more than $10 for your next haircut.&nbsp; Don't like your clothes?&nbsp; Get some more or try to emulate GQ with what you have.&nbsp; It's not being conceided, it's changing your style a bit so that you will FEEL good about yourself, which helps with the next subject. - Don't be afraid of any social situations.&nbsp; None.&nbsp; Talk to everyone to get some practice, ask questions, give feedback.&nbsp; Throw out some compliments to some people you don't see that often.&nbsp; Ignore those bad responses, they will happen, some days more often than others.&nbsp; - There is safety in numbers... when you feel outgoing bring your friends along so that you can have fun together.&nbsp; There are not many easier natural targets than a single Geek out after sunset.- Don't be afraid to be yourself, but learn when to paraphase.&nbsp; Don't change who you are, only adjust how you are and have fun.And if you don't like them, it's still OK to be McFly - he got the girl in the end too.edit: Speling &amp; Grammmer....agian.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="MarauderX, post: 966832, member: 9990"] Zogg is on to something here... I dropped gaming for about 9 years and hung out with a different crowd for a while (non-gamers...some call them preps or players). I think what distinguishes someone as not-as-cool, not just gamers, is the Geek factor. Sometimes it's personal hygene, sometimes just how a person walks or their posture, but most of the time it is purely what someone says in public. I am proud that I play D&D, but sometimes it just isn't cool to talk about it while waiting in line to see a band or during lunch with non-gamers. It's not that D&D is evil or not cool, but it's like talking about politics or religion on the boards - just don't do it since it can hurt you socially, and there are no mods to smack you back into line. Here are some tips that I have helped my fellow guys with for catching babes; maybe they will help you maybe not, but they helped some guys I know add self-confidence and lessen the Geek factor. - Be calm. Don't get nervous or excited that often, try drinking less coffee/dew/coke. Think of your voice like a river that you want people to take a canoe on - try to keep it smooth and flowing instead of spitting out words as fast as you can like choppy rapids. Learn to have more patiences than anyone you know. - Only express vague opinions on all things geeky. Say 'the Matrix was cool' instead of 'the scenes with the flying stuff could have been 3D modeled better if they used the latest overlay programs for Maya'. - Be aware of how you look, everyday. Just because you are only going to the store to get some milk, check out your look. You don't like your hair? Pay more than $10 for your next haircut. Don't like your clothes? Get some more or try to emulate GQ with what you have. It's not being conceided, it's changing your style a bit so that you will FEEL good about yourself, which helps with the next subject. - Don't be afraid of any social situations. None. Talk to everyone to get some practice, ask questions, give feedback. Throw out some compliments to some people you don't see that often. Ignore those bad responses, they will happen, some days more often than others. - There is safety in numbers... when you feel outgoing bring your friends along so that you can have fun together. There are not many easier natural targets than a single Geek out after sunset. - Don't be afraid to be yourself, but learn when to paraphase. Don't change who you are, only adjust how you are and have fun. And if you don't like them, it's still OK to be McFly - he got the girl in the end too. edit: Speling & Grammmer....agian. [/QUOTE]

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