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Message: <blockquote data-quote="talinthas" data-source="post: 970897" data-attributes="member: 10339">Even the most maladjusted gamer has Passion.  All it takes to be more socially adept is to learn to channel that passion into other skills.We've all seen that poor gamer who stutters and can hardly say one sentance without sweating or looking away, and we've all seen that same dude become the mighty CronZag the Warrior King, and explode in intense moments of roleplay.Life is just another session of the game.   I used to be indrawn and totally shy.  It didnt help that i was also indian in a predominantly white area.  The only way i changed was to realise that my talents as a gamer and orator could be applied to the real as well as the imagined.  See, i used to be very quiet, but at the same time, when something struck my fancy, i exploded like a smoldering coal exposed to gasoline.  Dragonlance for instance, made me become a different person.  Soon though, i figured out that if i can learn to use that passion, that energy, and just communicate to the real world, i'd have a much easier time.  Smiling helps =)But yeah, i went from a nerdy pariah at my high school to an incredibly popular nerd =)  I still played D&D and MtG, but people were willing to talk to me.  Why?  Because i learned to use my imagination for something other than character generation =)All gamers have the potential to be vibrant people.  We can all get incredibly excited while having discussions on saving throws or matrix and buffy.  Is it that hard to use even half of that to talk to a girl or some other mundanes?  Music, movies, tv shows, pop culture.  Everyone knows about them, but gamers as a breed go much deeper into them.  All you have to do is come back to the surface a bit, but maintain the intensity you have deep in the nuances.Of course, i didnt get my first girlfriend till college, but i wasnt looking too hard.  Still though, three years later, we're still dating, and she's a rog/assassin in my Dragonlance campaign, so something must have worked, right? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f60e.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":cool:" title="Cool    :cool:"  data-smilie="6"data-shortname=":cool:" /> <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /> <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /></blockquote>

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