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<blockquote data-quote="Thomas Shey" data-source="post: 9512880" data-attributes="member: 7026617">This is me speculating, but my guess would be that he's frustrated by one or more aspects of the game, but wants to play (possibly because of the rest of you are or because he'd otherwise have trouble finding a group to play with) and this is expressing itself in the negative behavior.&nbsp; If that's true you may have to zero in on that either because he's not conscious he's doing it (and may have&nbsp; resistance to admitting it) or because he still sees it as the start of a trip out of the group.This is not to say you should not be doing it, because continuing with that sort of thing poisons a group pretty well, but when someone does things like that rather than bringing it up, the best-case is they're just conflict averse, and all the others are worse.(And yes, if it proves to be impossible to address, you just deal with it on an out-of-game level.&nbsp; I've never understood why some people think spanking people in game serves any valuable purpose in these situations).</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Thomas Shey, post: 9512880, member: 7026617"] This is me speculating, but my guess would be that he's frustrated by one or more aspects of the game, but wants to play (possibly because of the rest of you are or because he'd otherwise have trouble finding a group to play with) and this is expressing itself in the negative behavior. If that's true you may have to zero in on that either because he's not conscious he's doing it (and may have resistance to admitting it) or because he still sees it as the start of a trip out of the group. This is not to say you should not be doing it, because continuing with that sort of thing poisons a group pretty well, but when someone does things like that rather than bringing it up, the best-case is they're just conflict averse, and all the others are worse. (And yes, if it proves to be impossible to address, you just deal with it on an out-of-game level. I've never understood why some people think spanking people in game serves any valuable purpose in these situations). [/QUOTE]

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