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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Death_Jester" data-source="post: 1319259" data-attributes="member: 2156">Greetings All, Recently a friend was telling me about his gaming group and their trials in finding new players.  While I was talking to him I was putting myself in his shoes and thinking about the things that he would have to consider.  As we know there are players all over the place but finding the right group of people to make a party work is sometimes difficult.  He and his GM knew lots of people that gamed but couldn’t figure out which ones would work well together so they created a little questionnaire to help the process.  They sent it out and only a few of the people they knew responded back.  So that helped to limit the amount of people they had to consider. My first question is how would you (the players and GMs on this board) feel about getting a questionnaire for a game?Later he was telling me that they had made a decision of two people out of all the respondents.  The thing that worries me is how do you keep from burning bridges here with those people you didn’t feel where right?  I know if I spent my time answering someone’s questions and then come up with nothing based on my answers to those questions I would be upset (but then again I get upset pretty easily :-D).   So my next question would be how would you keep from burning bridges behind you when you didn’t choose someone for a game after having the fill out a questionnaire? Or better yet how would you let them down gently, without hurting anyone’s pride?This isn’t like a job interview where you can just not call the person back and they know they didn’t get the job.  These are people that you share common ground with and could be seeing for quite a while, like in the future at other gaming related events.  It seems that it would be real easy to become the bad guy in a situation like this and hated for being elitist, while are you really want is to have fun.  It would be my intention to minimize the sting when someone is not chosen in this situation but I would like to hear what the members of this board have to say about it.  So my last question would be how would you keep a friendship with someone after something like this? I can see both sides of the situation and it doesn’t look like a win-win proposition no matter how you slice it.  Gaming is fun but it is a small community and unforgiving for those that make mistakes in it.  If you get a bad reputation people know about it and avoid you like the plague.  I have seen it happen in two gaming societies that tried to get started in Louisville a while back.  So I’m asking you (the gaming public) how would you feel or react to this these questions and situations and how do you make it less painful for those involved.  Thanks for your time</blockquote>

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