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<blockquote data-quote="DumbPaladin" data-source="post: 5465856" data-attributes="member: 90770"><p>Yes, ask her.</p><p></p><p>Ask her if she wants to play a different character. Ask her if she needs help. Pull her aside and tell her you have these concerns. Give her the short version of all this stuff you put in this post -- how you were floored by her previous RP with the bard, but how she seems so disconnected now, at least in your perspective.</p><p></p><p>Tell her as the DM, you feel it's your job to keep all players equally involved, and so your perception of her detachment is making you feel you are dropping the ball when it comes to your own job within the group.</p><p></p><p>If you actually like this person, as you say, then actually talking to her as a friend about your concerns and exactly WHY they are concerns (based on past experience) may actually lead to some positive change.</p><p></p><p>This is definitely one of those situations where I think the caring and direct approach is the right way to go. If your attempt to appeal to her one-on-one goes nowhere, try talking to her husband as well, laying out your concerns, and see what HE has to say. </p><p></p><p>Does he even notice this?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DumbPaladin, post: 5465856, member: 90770"] Yes, ask her. Ask her if she wants to play a different character. Ask her if she needs help. Pull her aside and tell her you have these concerns. Give her the short version of all this stuff you put in this post -- how you were floored by her previous RP with the bard, but how she seems so disconnected now, at least in your perspective. Tell her as the DM, you feel it's your job to keep all players equally involved, and so your perception of her detachment is making you feel you are dropping the ball when it comes to your own job within the group. If you actually like this person, as you say, then actually talking to her as a friend about your concerns and exactly WHY they are concerns (based on past experience) may actually lead to some positive change. This is definitely one of those situations where I think the caring and direct approach is the right way to go. If your attempt to appeal to her one-on-one goes nowhere, try talking to her husband as well, laying out your concerns, and see what HE has to say. Does he even notice this? [/QUOTE]
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