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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Thia Halmades" data-source="post: 2713158" data-attributes="member: 35863">Palskane:  I'm not sure who said to what to whom; lots of proper nouns without a lot of reference.  Who sent the long, poorly spelled email originally?  If that was the femme in question, than this sounds far more like an excuse to start a fight than a real grievance.  Simply: she's opting to split hairs and take what was clearly meant as a compliment - possibly a poorly worded one, but a compliment - as an insult.  I generally find this sort of thing absurd.Your DM has a good point: if it means that much to her, than she needs to take it back to the game table and huff and puff until she's got nothing left to yell about.  I can read it and see her point; if it's a female gamer (which I'm unclear on) and she wants to wave the feminine rights flag, hey.  By all means, wave away.  But that can be much more easily resolved by simply saying, without all the hubbub, "Please refer to me as a sword mistress; I appreciate the compliment, but also take pride in the fact that I accomplished these things as a woman."  That would make sense to everyone involved.Her arguments are also in part straw-man; she's making statements about what you're saying based on her definition, which likely has little or nothing to do with the implied compliment.  This isn't something that (I feel) needed to be dragged out of game and into a massive confrontation.  Should you drop the game?  Eh, that's always up to you, but my advice in these situations is pretty universal.- If you're enjoying the game, don't let one player ruin that enjoyment.  If said player continues to attempt to impose her will on you, as though she is "right" and you are "wrong," you need an impartial mediator (your DM).  This should also involve an apology from you (Sorry if you were offended) and an apology from her/the player (sorry I took it so personally and blew it out of proportion).- Should the DM fail to resolve this, then agree to disagree and move on from that particular discussion and don't get put yourself in that argument again.- If you're feeling really, really evil, however, remember that "Mistress" has multiple connotations, which I won't go into on the family friendly board.  But feel free to abuse them. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /></blockquote>

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