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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 5458958" data-attributes="member: 177">On message boards, sarcasm is not a useful tool to get folks who disagree with you to understand and accept your point of view.  That's because sarcasm is designed to make the target look foolish - it engages the pride, and puts the target in the position of having to take further bruises to the ego to agree with you.  Thus, if you are actually trying to improve matters, it is a lousy tool.Same goes for public outing of cheating, or making a scene of it in front of your whole group.  You'd be engaging emotion and ego in a way that would make it less likely for the player to concede to your wishes.  They will deny and avoid, rather than be open and honest.So, if what you want to do is correct the behavior, take the player aside and talk to him or her about it in a non-accusatory way.</blockquote>