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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Haltherrion" data-source="post: 5462979" data-attributes="member: 18253">It's easy and satisfying to suggest calling someone on cheating in front of the entire group as others have on this thread but it just struck me as wrong although I couldn't quite verbalize why at first. But thinking about it, it's pretty clear. There are two main reasons, in no particular order:<ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">It will likely make everyone else at the table uncomfortable. We've become non-confrontational? Perhaps but why do something that is going to really bother a good chunk of folks at the table? They aren't cheating. Maybe you don't care about losing the cheater but you certainly don't want to lose anyone else. This isn't a casino Texas hold'em game where everyone at the table is a foe and you are there for a single purpose. You game for some element of socialization and if it gets uncomfortable, you will lose some players. And why not? Uncomfortable is not good socialization.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If you want to retain the player but stop the behavior, publically calling someone out is less likely to succeed than privately dealing with it because in the former case, they are more likely to quit the group entirely.</li> </ol>That's not to say a public call-out can't work in some thicker skinned groups or can't be handled smoothly with some carefully executed sarcasm but I can't begrudge you the OP for wanting to be less confrontational about it. It's not so different when managing people (which I do for a living). While there are times where it is appropriate to call someone out publically in general in relationships among professionals (probably most analogous to a gaming group), private negative feedback is most effective if your goal is to get someone to change their behavior and remain a productive member of your team. If you just want to score points and piss them off enough to quit, then by all means slam them in public <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

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