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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Fenros" data-source="post: 358207" data-attributes="member: 975">Slightly off topic, but yet ON TOPIC....I once had this dream about a woman who I used to work with. At the time of the dream, I hadn't seen her for like a year. But in the dream, she had this very very 'real' feeling.  This was a girl I never really was interested into either, but in the dream, she gave off this intense vibe of loneliness. It was weird.Then about 3 or so weeks later, I went into my old work place to visit a friend. I didn't expect to see her there, because I heard she moved on to another company. However, I bumped into her there. She had temporarily come back for a month to do extra work or something. But anyways.......when I bumped into her in the hallway, there was this weird moment where she looked at me really weird.  Like she wanted to say something but held back. When I saw the expression, I thought of the dream and suddenly I kinda was at a loss for words too. Finally, after an awkward pause, we said our customary 'hellos'. Said "How are you doing lately, blah blah blah....oh yeah? That's nice, blah blah. Good to see you again....Okay, catcha later sometime...blah blah"But as she walked away, I really (out of intense curiosity) wanted to ask her if.......well..........if she had the same dream I had. And did she see me in it?Its seems so.....unscientific. But maybe, just maybe......all the speculations on random or hidden human brain abilities could be true? Not just fiction? Could the both of us actually have been in each other's dreams/heads? Is that why she looked at me that way? Did she conjure back up the 'connection' we had? Or....was the look on her face just her trying to remember my name? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" />I dunno, but I was almost willing to embarrass myself to find out. But then again, I held back and said nothing. -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Back to the problem with the girl. I agree with Takyris. If you're going to start making moves to 'get to know' this girl. Do it nice and easy. Dont' come out blasting right away. Try to see from her point of view if you ever get confused as to how your 'next move' will seem. Too often, back in high school, I'd take a friend's advice to be bold and go up and ask the girls I liked. I was chicken, but I got the nerve to do it. And you know what? I didn't even stammer or seem nervous. I was actually coming across relaxed and confident. But.......it didn't work. They still said 'no'.  Its because they didn't really know me enough. Sure I talked to them a few times here or there. But that's it. I'm still a stranger. Why would they say yes to me? Thank goodness toward the end of my losing streak a girl helped me out of my rut by simply asking me out. (Which by the way, I encourage........c'mon ladies, ask us guys out more often!)Anyways, I say start talking to the girl when you see openings. Be friendly and natural. Express interest in things she mentions. Work your way into her life bit by bit. Make her feel comfortable around you. But its true, there comes a time where she is finally comfortable around you and there is indeed an opportunity to ask her out. When you see it,  THEN don't wait any longer. True, it could be possible this jock you saw talking to her is a possible rival, but don't let his presence make you rush and mess it up. Yes, start 'working it' soon before he gets ahead of you, but don't rush it. Yes, be yourself, but the best side of yourself. No odious personal habits!Here's where role-playing skills come in handy. You're gonna role-play the most casual charismatic and confident version of yourself.Good luck! I'll cross my fingers for you.p.s. maybe the fact that she was in your dream has something to do with fate? ......well, if you think that kinda stuff might be real that is......</blockquote>

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