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<blockquote data-quote="nswanson27" data-source="post: 7119727" data-attributes="member: 6797553">I liken this sorta situation to roommates that have different standards for what &quot;clean&quot; is.On the one extreme, you have a total slob who just is interested in keeping things so it's not a health risk or a fire hazard.On the other extreme, you have the OCD clean freak, who will say that the smallest amount of disorder is &quot;messing up the place&quot;.I find that the solution to such scenarios is really for each person to first humbly acknowledge where they sit on the spectrum, and can candidly admit if and how where they sit on that spectrum will be an issue for others to get along with. This is opposed to jumping to conclusions based on them being &quot;right&quot; and the other being &quot;wrong&quot;, and will assume whatever nasty/unfounded/weird thing they want about the other's character and their intentions to justify that position.Once this is squared away, usually the whole effort to talking about things in a respectful way and reaching a compromise is much easier, and everyone in general will just have more fun.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="nswanson27, post: 7119727, member: 6797553"] I liken this sorta situation to roommates that have different standards for what "clean" is. On the one extreme, you have a total slob who just is interested in keeping things so it's not a health risk or a fire hazard. On the other extreme, you have the OCD clean freak, who will say that the smallest amount of disorder is "messing up the place". I find that the solution to such scenarios is really for each person to first humbly acknowledge where they sit on the spectrum, and can candidly admit if and how where they sit on that spectrum will be an issue for others to get along with. This is opposed to jumping to conclusions based on them being "right" and the other being "wrong", and will assume whatever nasty/unfounded/weird thing they want about the other's character and their intentions to justify that position. Once this is squared away, usually the whole effort to talking about things in a respectful way and reaching a compromise is much easier, and everyone in general will just have more fun. [/QUOTE]

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