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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Djeta Thernadier" data-source="post: 965024" data-attributes="member: 12043">OT sort ofYou know what Fusangite, you'd be amazed. I have no idea what you look like. I'm sure you look just fine. I consider myself to be an average looking person and have met very few people who fall in the below average category...that could be because I think a persons beauty shows through their personality, and having cool, interesting interests...I don't know. But I have been in Kitana's (sorry if I spelled your name wrong) boat a few times myself. And I'm not even this so called "pretty" by the standards of most people who've met me. I'm not hideous either. I'm "average". Which is fine by me, considering I went through my entire childhood/much of my early adulthood being made fun of by these so called "pretty people" because they thought I was ugly. Men never approached me, and still don't (unless they are desperate or insane), I always have to approach them. (I have a great guy now, who is neither desperate or pathetic...we kind of found each other and knew each other very well before we got together) But before that, all the men I liked shot me down, women kept me around as "the ugly friend who wasn't a threat to them picking up guys". I spent much of my high school and college years depressed and with next to no self esteem. Then I discovered sci fi, gaming and fantasy and some other "different" hobbies (one of which I'll get to in a second) and decided $%^ the pretty people, cause man, I have a personality. Then I noticed people started to talk to me more. Now some people tell me I'm "cute" but I'm telling you it's because of WHO I am , not what I look like. This is not the place for a long debate on this topic. If you'd like to discuss it via email, please email me.I think when you don't fit into a stereotype for ANYTHING , some of the members of that group tend to shun you, esp. those who do fit the stereotype, either by choice to keep the stereotype going, or because thats just who they are. I haven't been to a gaming convention, but have twice been turned away from gaming groups because of what I looked like(and that I'm female). But I also have another interest, an interest in Sideshow history, performing etc. and I went to a con last year for that, and lets just say a girl with no tattoos or piercings or blue hair doesn't fit in at a Sideshow freak convention. I was crushed because these people are very interesting , cool and fun. None of them even came near me and I felt like I did when I was in high school again. Why can't people all just judge people on who they are and what they like and not what they look like. It doesn't matter if you're not attractive, or overly attractive because, honestly, I think it works both ways. Depends on what circles you run in. And when your face doesn't "match" so to speak, your hobbies' stereotype, it's a lot harder.</blockquote>

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