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Message: <blockquote data-quote="jaded" data-source="post: 2178896" data-attributes="member: 1269">Stereotyping: the image, the clothes, maybe even the smell. They serve as your first impression. As wiser heads than me have commented people are judgemental, as this is judging a book by its cover. People do it. You can control this but you seem to be happy with impression that you give. Fair enough.Then you get to talk to someone for the first time. There is one and only one outcome here... you come off as being yourself. Now if this is just reinforcing a stereotype to the other party, that's their conclusion, but one that you chose to assist by (for example) chatting about RPGs or Star Wars from the get-go. Fair enough.My point here is that you have two relatively small, effortwise, options to reduce this stereotypical reaction to yourself. The point you have made though, is that your not prepared to do it purely because "society" expects it. *shrug* Fair enough. To me it seems like a no-brainer though.Now, my immediate reaction here was to delete the reply I started. If you don't want to change your lifestyle, then no amount of advice here on ENworld is going to help or motivate you.I can only really suggest one thing. Even you you might find it distasteful and you don't want to do it, do something else. Sure, you know that another hour of KotOR will be fun, but it will be predictable fun, and it is extermely unlikely to help with your loneliness problem.Go out and indulge your friends that are goofing around. You don't have to join in, but at least be willing to meet them halfway socially. Listen to their stories, laugh at the appropriate times. You don't have to agree, but you don't have to be judgemental either. In time it will be your turn and they will indulge you. This is an exceedingly crude example , but I hope you see the point that I'm making. And while you're out you're much more likely to meet someone, who, when your friends are indulging your interests, might share them.I guess what I'm saying is: you have to give a little to get a little. You should do things that you don't want to do because there is a tangible reward for doing them (like going to work!). It might not pay off straight away, but then, what does?  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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