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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Seeten" data-source="post: 2179101" data-attributes="member: 27186">Everyone here on ENWorld seems fairly intelligent. Honestly. Social interaction takes just a bit of experience. All you need to do is study, pay attention, and learn. Watch how others do it. People who ooze personal charisma can pull off more, but reasonable social interaction can be done even by those who are painfully shy. My father is a great example. He was so shy, he didnt like talking to his parents. He worked at it. By the time he was 35, he was president of public groups. He still felt awkward, but only HE knew that.I got my mothers personal charisma. Lucky me. I was at home everywhere I went, and with any group, but I still worked at it. I worked to understand social dynamics, the underlying structure, why people reacted in certain ways to certain things. I can, and do, predict actions and reactions before they happen. I have my wife convinced to this day that I can read her mind. I can always tell her what she's thinking. Its just a matter of paying attention to all the little things. Anyone can do it, not just someone with high social skills. Social skills are learned, as well as inherited. I think everyone should make an effort, as it makes everyone happier, far as I can tell. Adults dont tend to marginalize as quickly, either, so you'll find not only do your skills grow, but others care less about superficial nonsense.Take showers. Pay attention. Pretend you care about what others have to say, even if you dont. In return, they'll pretend to care about what you say. Eventually, you'll find a woman perfect for you, and you'll be in your kluge-vana.</blockquote>

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