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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 2179384" data-attributes="member: 2067">First of all, lonely for companionship? Want a good girl by your side? Welcome to being a dude, dude. or, frick, a human being. I'd imagine a good 90% of those who don't have SO's want one. It's pretty normal.But you can't let it define your strategy in life. You can't see a girl and instantly judge if she's right for you. Because that's still selfish. That's still interested in her only for what she gets you (namely, away from loneliness). It's selfish, and it radiates a lack of confidence, which people can smell like a shark smells blood in the water. "Getting a girl" probably requires first and foremost that "getting a girl" isn't first and foremost on your list of things to do. Once it isn't, you'll be more natural, be more confident, and be more concerned with people for who they are, rather than what they can do for you.See, this is madness. If you think she's worthy of your attention, what's the harm in finding out about what she likes, and why she likes it? What's wrong with actually having a conversation here? And why, for the sake of all that is polyhedral, is one's *gaming style* going to stand in the way of a good relationship? It's doomed before it's started because your fashionable tragedy decelares that LARPers and hack-n-slashers cannot get along. This is a gross stereotype that you're foisting on her, and on pretty much everyone. You are not a hack-n-slasher. You're a human being, just like she is. If you think she's worthy of your attention, GIVE IT TO HER. You don't need to foist your gaming style on her, and you don't need to RP when you hang out together. Go see a movie (Sin City = Good. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />). Go to dinner. Talk about politics and religion and families and other minutae of daily life. Be actively interested in who she is, and don't you *dare* think to judge this thing a failure from the start just because she MIGHT hate you SOMEDAY MAYBE. Dude, everyone might hate you someday maybe. Until then, follow the happiness wherever it may lead you.You're defining your world in stereotypes and poor expectations. The future ain't written, and the past ain't never true.Don't tell her she will hate you. Let her decide that.And if she does, so what? What have you lost? Time? Money? Effort? You're losing that sitting here reading ENWorld, buddy, might as well spend it chasing a skirt.</blockquote>

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