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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Lasher Dragon" data-source="post: 2179428" data-attributes="member: 26634">You are you no matter what you choose to do (with the exception of some notable drugs, trust me, I know). Seems to me like you are having a moment of clarity in your life, one of many you will have. There are several ways of dealing with this. Myself, I try to really feel if the current situation is to my liking, or if I am just stuck in a rut and need a change. What you must realize is that were you to completely change your lifestyle, inside you are still you. Let's say you decided to wear khakis and polo shirts, bathe everyday, and shop at Old Navy. You would still be you (a very unhappy you, at least I would be LOL - I despise Old Navy), yet the general public would view you in a completely different light. Sometimes this is fun to do as a gag - pick a day, and all day wear a style of clothing completely different than anything you would wear. You know if you went far enough if your friends either a) laugh their arses off when they see you (no, I'm not talking drag or anything), or b) they don't even recognize you at first. I did this once and I had a blast - in college I was "goth lite", and one day for the hell of it I decided to wear khakis, a sports shirt, and shave my goattee down to a moustache. I couldn't look in the mirror without laughing hysterically at my appearance. You know what? Years later, I love khakis. They are extremely comfortable!Every so often in my life I find myself bored with my current situation - be it my job, my style, my social group, my hobbies, etc.. When this happens, I try to think of what I want AND what I think would improve my "social standing" (AKA getting chicks hehehe). I reinvent myself. If you have never done it, it may seem an impossible task at first. However, for me anyway, even though it was hard at first, it was well worth it in the end. In high school I was a loner, I had friends, but most were older and/or not in my school. I was a geek as well, not too bad, but geeky enough. The only HS sport I did was track (pole vault LOL). Since then, I have gone through many metamorphoses and would be hard-pressed to find someone nowadays who would classify me as a geek (even though I still am!!!). I suck at basic auto maintainance, I DJ at the biggest club in town, I play D&D religiously, I am constantly getting hit on (my wife hates that), I play videogames until I can barely keep my eyes open, people always want me to go to their parties, I fix people's computers for them, etc. etc..If you are not happy, change. It will be hard the first time. Just remember that you don't have to give up the things you love to change the way society sees you. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /></blockquote>

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