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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 2179645" data-attributes="member: 9037">I was not making fun of anyone. I don't make fun of people because I know how that feels. I spent my teen age years being picked on because I was fat and a geek. In my 20s I found SF fandom and it was like coming home. I met people who accepted me for who I was and did not judge me. It was great. I was heavily involved in putting on cons and this taught me a lot. I learned a lot of self confidence I learned to speak in front of large groups of people. As I gained self confidence I found that I could talk to anyone even people who were not in fandom. SF fandom is the same as gaming fandom it is made up of different kinds of people. And there were your sterotypical fan who still lived at home had hygenie problems and did not really connect with the mundane world. I never made fun of these people I could have been one of these people if things had been different. I had a lot of scars and bittnerness coming out of my teens and I could have gone this route and said to hell with society why should I try and even try to fit into a society that had treated me so badly.But luckily there were a lot of other people in fandom who had their lives together and were able to balance their fan activities with real life. And that was the road I chose to take. As for weight I struggle with mine all the time I keep trying to lose. I do walk everyday. I take extra care with my grooming because fat woman are judged more harshly than men I may be fat but no one can say I am a slob. I do feel better about me when I have my make up on. I like being a woman and doing girlie things. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> I don't like sports and really hate watching them so what I follow the news enough to know how the local teams are doing so I can at least be part of a conversation. And it does not take that much time. I love to read mainly fantasy and mystery novels but I make a point now to fit in non fiction books to expand my mind. I am on AOL so I read the news on the internet everyday just snippets if that is all I have time for. I try and find a balance in my life between my hobbies, responsibilities and the people I care about.</blockquote>

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