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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 2179963" data-attributes="member: 2067">And lest Mr. Oakheart get discouraged because we're kinda being jerks about this, remember that we wouldn't be jerks about this if we didn't care.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /> It's Tuff Luv, like the drill sergeant that shouts at you to make you feel worse so you'll try and be better. Constructive criticism, we to destroy you to build you back up, etc. Take it to heart, but don't take it personally -- it's for your own good.  <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/devious.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":]" title="Devious    :]" data-shortname=":]" /> I believe if I were in that situation, rather than judging the person unworthy of my attention, I'd say: "You haven't?! Dude, swing by my place Saturday, and I will show it to you. You don't remember how cool it is."Or, y'know, if they express no interest in seeing it again, I'd change the subject. My hobbies (such as watching Star Wars) don't encompass my entire conversational ability. Maybe ask: "So what do you think was the most cool moment of bad guys torturing good guys in cinema?" Shift the convo back to them. People like to talk about themselves. Human beings are pretty self-centered....social skill is just making others feel like you care about them.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />...as for this:Man, if this was ever a can of social and phsycological worms, you've found it...there's so many different viens of crazy that go into high school cliques and self-identification at that point....For simplicity, let's say society values some passtimes more than others -- Football > Theatre > Chess. The farther down the chain you go, the more isolated and estranged from tne normal happenings of social life you become. Chess teams don't have cheerleaders, and no one has a homecoming dance for the D&D crowd. This gets reinforced by natural human cruelty -- if you're not part of my group, you are worse than I am. Compound that with the idea that HS is "the most important time of your life" and that up until about 45 years ago (and maybe more for some regions), people pretty much graduated high school, got married, raised kids, and that's it....well, people take a lot of definition from this point.</blockquote>

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