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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 2182590" data-attributes="member: 2067">You're lying to yourself again. There is a difference. They rejected you. They declared you not worth their time and effort. They decidied that you were less than them, based solely on your appearance, the *exact* same way you decide that someone who gets stoned is worse than you based solely upon their hobby. Wanna pretend that doesn't make you mad at them? Sure, keep up your little fantasy. You're not hurting me, you're only hurting yourself, bucko. It artificially limits the people you may be involved with, which not only stops you from meeting a nice girl, it also makes you a concieted jerk. And being a concieted jerk is gonna stop you from meeting a nice girl a lot more than not showering one day.Because that pretending shows a selflessness, a generosity, a kindness, and a compassion that most people like to see in others. You're not dressing nice so people will hang out with you -- that's just a side effect. You're dressing nice because other people want you to. It's this novel concept called "not being a selfish twick" that exists out there. By dressing in clothes others want to see you in, you're doing something nice for them. For all of humanity. Just by changing your wardrobe on days you leave the house. Stop seeing it as something you're doing to get friends -- it's not. That's selfish, that's manipulative. You're doing it to be nice. Otherwise, you're a selfish twick who could care less what other people want to see, as long as you're happy with your tees and jeans. People don't pretend to like people to feel better about themselves. People pretend to like people out of kindness, courtesey, and generosity. You are being far too exclusive and far too narrowminded in how you accept others. You're being a superficial jerk. And by doing things like not caring how someone else is dressed, you show that you, indeed, have compassion, kindness, and consideration for your fellow human.Of course, if you'd rather not, no one's stopping you from being a jerk. But don't expect to be approved for your lifestyle if you're a jerk.Well, this is a message board. No one cares what you're really like. We just care that we do our obligation to our fellow human and try to stop one superficial, shallow little much from being such a superficial, shallow little munch. But hey, if you're happy, whatever, right? It's your happiness that most matters, isn't it? That's how you're going to carry yourself, whatever makes you happy regardless of what others want.You don't have to pretend to like drinking, you just have to stop being shallow and realize that drinking isn't all a person is about, even if it's the first thing you see.Calling hem fallacies isn't like saying "true love doesn't exist" it's like saying "thinking like this is not healthy." It doesn't really matter if you agree or disagree. Your opinion doesn't make it any more healthy or open. Just because you believe sugar builds muscles doesn't make it true. Just because you hold these pathological behavioral abberations up on sacred pedestals doesn't mean that they really are. What it means is that you're wrong, and you don't want to admit it, because you don't want to see your own problems. All this talk about how you're really pretty happy is just that -- avoiding the point. It's shifting responsibility. "I don't really need to change because I'm not unhappy, see!"It doesn't matter if you're unhappy. No one cares about your happiness right now. We care about ours. And we get unhappy when someone thinks we'll be their best friend in the world because we're wearing a Star Wars tee. It's shallow, it's superficial, and it's selfish on your part. If you don't change, people will continue to largely not like you, and that's not the fault of the people, that's your fault for being too selfish to take their feelings into account in your desperate rush to find a kindred spirit. From the GSF article:So, you see, PROBLEMS. Saying true love doesn't exist is a cosmological statement of dubious truth, saying GSF's cause problems is a cause and effect relationship. The mere fact that you hold some of these up to "true love" kind of levels means that they are unhealthy obsessions on which you've founded your sense of being. This means that it is probably beyond the powers of a message board to do anything to you, especially since you're so adamant about your self-interest that you're ignoring the wise advice in favor of saying "there's no real problem, see!" It wasn't excessively mean. It was accurate. If you don't want it to be accurate anymore, it's gonna require a personal revolution, one that you want. Because no amount of our cruelty will ever *make* you change. Change is in your own hands.</blockquote>

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