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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Djeta Thernadier" data-source="post: 946917" data-attributes="member: 12043">I don't think there is anything wrong with this person seeking out someone they can share a common interest with. I know people who have relationships where they have nothing in common but get along great, and that's fine for them...but for myself, this person and a lot of others, we are happier with someone we can share common interests with. In this case gaming. My boyfriend and I are in a game together, and looking for another one because it's something we like doing together. We have a lot in common.I have dated people in the past whom I had nothing in common with whatsoever and those relationships , although I wish no ill will upon any of these guys , and I am sure they are "right" for someone, were not very happy, because we never just "hung out together". I know my boyfriends past was the same , dated people who I'm sure are ok people but he had not a lot in common with. I've also dated people who gamed but that was where the similiarity ended, so it didn't work out. So it's not everything, obviously. What I think really makes my boyfriend & I click the way we do is we actually have a lot to do together, gaming, similiar styles of movies, similiar hobbies, as well as similiar outlooks on life. Of course we aren't clones....we do spend a healthy amount of time doing our own thing. But having some stuff in common to start from helps.Of course, some people are happier having someone who is completely different from them. Depends on what you want a signifigant other for. Do you want someone to share your life with? Or someone who's there but seperate from everything else in your life? Both things are fine. It's a matter of taste.But, to tell someone they "need help" because they are looking for someone to have fun with doing something they both enjoy seems a bit harsh. Look at personal adds...most people list hobbies, and I'd be willing to be that more than one person who lists something obscure, creative or unique as a hobby, will get someone else's attention who shares that hobby. Where it goes on from there, who can say? Obviously there are tons of other factors.My suggestion to the person looking for someone would be to just be honest with people you meet about how much a part gaming plays in your life. If you take out a personal, make sure you list it, front and center. I know if I were looking for a guy and I saw someone had that listed , I'd look twice, because it's something i enjoyed too. Just my 2 cents... <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> ~Sheri</blockquote>

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