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Message: <blockquote data-quote="fusangite" data-source="post: 947347" data-attributes="member: 7240">Now that my ex and I are out of politics, gaming is the way we stay in touch with eachother. Our breakup wasn't especially civilized (she was civilized, I was not) and gaming was actually a really good way to rebuild our social dynamic because of the capacity to just be "in character." Gaming has been a really good way to maintain a low intensity acquaintanceship where we are able to stay in touch and see eachother regularly. I would agree with those who argue that a shared interest gaming should not be either the sole criterion for finding a potential mate nor that non-gaming should disqualify a potential mate. But I don't get the sense that anyone is actually disagreeing with those views. Some of us just think that doing creative fun things with a mate or potential mate is better than not doing them.Rather, what I worry about are gamers who find other gamers intrinsically less attractive. This suggests to me a considerable degree of self-hatred. It reminds me of the powerful writing of people like Malcolm X and Marcus Garvey about how the upsetting phenomenon of Black people finding people who share their physical features intrinsically unattractive. One really has to dislike oneself to find another's resemblance to oneself so off-putting.</blockquote>