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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Angcuru" data-source="post: 947428" data-attributes="member: 10948">Blessing or Curse?<img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f60e.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":cool:" title="Cool    :cool:"  data-smilie="6"data-shortname=":cool:" /> Very true.  I don't hold gaming to be any sort of criteria when looking for a SO, even though it is a significant part of my life.  My planned approach is this:  during the starting phases of the relationship, establish that you SO does not have a grudge about you gaming, and then move on to getting her into game if at all possible.I myself put the person first and the hobbies secondary.  But then again I haven't been an such a relationship yet so hey, what do I know?  However, there is also my little personal obastacle of being a complete and total coward when it comes to making moves on women.<img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f644.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll eyes    :rolleyes:"  data-smilie="11"data-shortname=":rolleyes:" />  I've engrained into my phsyche over the early stages of my hermit-like life the idea of "Try hard not to offend anyone.  Just shut up and things will work out fine." While useful up through Junior High, this has since become a major obstacle when it comes to women, for obvious reasons.  It really sucks when you find the 'perfect' girl, and you try so hard not to offend her that you end up not being able to make an advance.  She gets along fine with me and I'm crazy about her, but my "Making no advances removes the possibility that she will be offended." mindset prevents me from advancing any farther than that.  Sucks to be me.  The girl of my dreams is right in front of me, single, and my own psyche prevents me from doing anything.  My mind is my own worst enemy. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f644.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll eyes    :rolleyes:"  data-smilie="11"data-shortname=":rolleyes:" />Enough self-pity, back to the topic at hand. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" />  If she were a gamer, I could invite her into the gaming group, she would get to know me better, and it would be THAT much easier to make a move. (besides the notion that the presence of a nice young lady would make the game a bit more mature and tone down the DM's crazy attitude)  Hence, as a gamer I would have an easier time dating gamers than non-gamers.</blockquote>

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