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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Silver Moon" data-source="post: 948649" data-attributes="member: 8530">Wow, it's been several days since I last posted to this thread, and the conversation has indeed been interesting.   One poster commented about Buttercup's experience being unique.  Not so, been married 14 years myself to a gamer with similar interests, including the overlapped record and book collections.    My wife and I do have some rather different interests - her hobbies include weaving, spinning and brewing beer, while I am still active with the Boy Scouts, but most of our other hobbies do overlap.  Most of the heated discussion here seems to be about the interpretation of looking for someone who is specifically a gamer.  Just broaden that a bit to looking for someone who has similar traits to gamers (i.e. an above average intelligence and overactive imagination, with a bent towards either sci-fi/fantasy or venues of creativity such as music and art) and I think you're onto something that nearly everyone who has posted to this thread might agree with.  Several posters have also said that couple dynamics won't work in a gaming group, but my experience is very different.   I started playing in a co-ed group back in college, and we had LOTS of couples over the years.  After break-ups sometimes one might leave, but more often than not both would still stick with the game.   I was in another group that had 11 players (8 male, 3 female) that included a female player, her then current boyfreind and three of her ex-boyfriends, and there was never any friction between any of them.   And the final point I want to make is that a truly ethical DM would not treat a player any differently, regardless of what their past or current relationship was.</blockquote>

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