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Message: <blockquote data-quote="fusangite" data-source="post: 952181" data-attributes="member: 7240">Perhaps I can try for some kind of synthesis here. It seems to me that one can view seeking out other gamers in one of two ways: (a) as a criterion; or (b) as a strategy. It seems to me that there is an absolute consensus that treating gaming as a criterion for a relationship is silly, immature and unproductive. All that is really under discussion is the idea of utilizing a shared interest in gaming as a strategy for finding a mate. It seems to me that as a dating strategy, seeking out another gamer has the following advantages:1. a guarantee of at least one common interest or hobby2. the probability of several related interests (fantasy and sci fi literature, history, geek culture)3. the probability of a higher degree of tolerance for social eccentricitiesIt seems that there are also some down sides:1. the high male to female ratio in the gaming community reducing the efficiency of the strategy (unless one is a gay male)2. the probability of a below average level of social functioning in mainstream environments3. the probability of an above average level of self-loathingTo me, it seems that there is little difference between this and meeting a potential partner through any other shared interest, including 19th century English poetry or mutual study of Victorian and modern American and continental philosophy. Generally, my view is that an interest-based dating strategy, regardless of the interest on which the strategy is based, is an inefficient one. In my view, having mutual acquaintances or regular contact is somewhat more efficient because these things overcome two key handicaps in dating: (a) lack of mutual trust/rapport, (b) incompatible styles of socializing.</blockquote>

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