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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Oryan77" data-source="post: 5365584" data-attributes="member: 18701">Uhg, that's a difficult situation to be in. I feel for ya.Marrying at age 21 is a pretty risky thing to do (these days). My 22 y/o brother-in-law and his younger wife were just telling the family over the weekend that they may divorce after only 2 years. But I think they are now trying to work it out, hopefully. Everyone told them before they married that they were not yet ready. Of course they didn't listen.I don't mean to be in your business as if I know you. But please think long and hard about marrying her so you guys don't add to the statistics and make marriage seem like nothing more than a "fun thing to do at the time". If she is already telling you that she doesn't accept your lifestyle (and it isn't like she's talking about a drug habit or anything serious), you need to make sure she is the right person to marry. She could be the right person, but maybe not right now. I dated my wife for 8 years before we married & I think it helped us know for a fact that marrying each other would not be a mistake. Eight years is an extreme (it wasn't our choice we waited that long), but I still think people marry too quickly before they really know & accept each other.Selfishness is a big factor to problems in a relationship. And a relationship doesn't work until both people learn to be less selfish.If you aren't willing to give up games for her (and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that), just make sure you give her your time & attention. Make sure you don't play games "too" much. But she also needs to give you your space and let you do what you want without making you feel guilty (as long as you still give her your attention). If she can't do this, I promise you you're going to live a miserable life with her as a wife. If she isn't willing to accept who you are, then it won't just stop with your gaming, she'll always find something to nag you about.The fact you had to post about this here shows that this is a serious issue for you. If you don't want to give it up, then you guys really need to work it out before you marry. And I don't mean to a point where she acts like she's ok with it for now. I mean you need to make it clear to her that you never want this to be a topic of discussion ever again. As long as you give her your attention, then it is very unfair of her to ask that you give up gaming 100%. She may think gaming is childish (and it is), but in the big scheme of life, getting nails or hair done, watching movies & TV, or whatever things she may spend her time doing is pretty pointless too. When you think about it, watching sports, gambling, or playing chess is pretty childish too. I find it annoying when a spouse complains about our gaming only because they find it childish.</blockquote>

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