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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Tamlyn" data-source="post: 5366559" data-attributes="member: 22563">In my mind it's all about balance. You need to do something that entertains you and helps you recharge. She needs the same. But this is also a relationship involving two people. In order for that relationship there needs to be time and activity together. You two need to figure out what works for you. And you need to figure out if the root of her statement is that she doesn't like what you do to entertain yourself (this statement should be taken entirely innocently) or that she doesn't like the amount of time spent away from her. Then figure out if you guys can balance that out.I didn't even get into gaming until after I was married, and by then my wife already knew I was a geek. But she totally encourages me to spend time with my friends. Our balance works out to me gaming every other week for 4-5 hours. And I squeeze that between all the family obligations like church, school, mutual friends, kids' soccer, her spending time with her friends, etc...I guess this is illustrated by the fiance of a new player I brought in. She didn't get it either until she was hanging out with my wife at our house while we were playing. She heard us laughing and joking for 4 straight hours. She understood that it was more than "just playing a game". This was his time with friends to relax and recharge. Now while they're trying to figure out what their married life together will be, they're balancing in his time to game with her personal recreation too.Neither my wife nor my friend's fiance has any interest in playing and they still think/know that we're geeks. But they encourage us to get our geek on as long as it doesn't detract from family obligations.Of course, all of the above is IMHO, YMMV.</blockquote>

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