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<blockquote data-quote="aboyd" data-source="post: 5367087" data-attributes="member: 44797">Mark,It'd be great if you could explain how.&nbsp; Maybe quote some of his words and explain how they lead to a theme that is opposite of what I interpreted?&nbsp; Thanks!EDIT: Ah, I see that the author of the article is you.&nbsp; So yeah, you've taken offense that I think your article is a total failure.&nbsp; I'll go back to my other post and make it nicer, since I didn't realize it was you, and I certainly didn't want to start a flamewar.&nbsp; However, I don't see how I can change my opinion that the article's advice is terribly inept until I hear more about how you intended something other than what I got from it.&nbsp; Thanks for any explanation you can offer.I'll get you started.&nbsp; How can the line, &quot;Katrina gets to win when there's a conflict,&quot; be interpreted to mean anything other than Katrina gets to win during a conflict?&nbsp; And how is it sane to apply that advice 100% of the time, as the article suggests?&nbsp; What about the OP?&nbsp; What if the conflict is &quot;I am going to commit adultery&quot; or &quot;I will no longer help raise the kids because parenthood doesn't suit me&quot; or &quot;I will have an abortion regardless of your moral/religious beliefs&quot; or any of a million other common conflicts?&nbsp; In what world is it OK for the guy to say, &quot;you win on that.&quot;&nbsp; People will ask for all sorts of unhealthy, self-indulgent stuff, and the idea that there is a blanket &quot;they win&quot; rule is incomprehensible to me.&nbsp; Thus, I need way more explanation.Or take your example in part 2, where you suggest that if the &quot;marriage debt&quot; is going unpaid, doing dishes and helping her get her needs met will suddenly start her servicing you.&nbsp; Seriously, dude.&nbsp; That only works for you because your wife is awesome -- the majority of women (and men) are mere mortals who will fall far short, or simply take advantage.&nbsp; And who can blame them?&nbsp; You've fostered it.The advice is just bizarre.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="aboyd, post: 5367087, member: 44797"] Mark, It'd be great if you could explain how. Maybe quote some of his words and explain how they lead to a theme that is opposite of what I interpreted? Thanks! EDIT: Ah, I see that the author of the article is you. So yeah, you've taken offense that I think your article is a total failure. I'll go back to my other post and make it nicer, since I didn't realize it was you, and I certainly didn't want to start a flamewar. However, I don't see how I can change my opinion that the [i]article's advice[/i] is terribly inept until I hear more about how you intended something other than what I got from it. Thanks for any explanation you can offer. I'll get you started. How can the line, "Katrina gets to win when there's a conflict," be interpreted to mean anything other than Katrina gets to win during a conflict? And how is it sane to apply that advice 100% of the time, as the article suggests? What about the OP? What if the conflict is "I am going to commit adultery" or "I will no longer help raise the kids because parenthood doesn't suit me" or "I will have an abortion regardless of your moral/religious beliefs" or any of a million other common conflicts? In what world is it OK for the guy to say, "you win on that." People will ask for all sorts of unhealthy, self-indulgent stuff, and the idea that there is a blanket "they win" rule is incomprehensible to me. Thus, I need [i]way[/i] more explanation. Or take your example in part 2, where you suggest that if the "marriage debt" is going unpaid, doing dishes and helping her get her needs met will suddenly start her servicing you. Seriously, dude. That only works for you because your wife is [i]awesome[/i] -- the majority of women (and men) are mere mortals who will fall far short, or simply take advantage. And who can blame them? [i]You've fostered it.[/i] The advice is just bizarre. [/QUOTE]

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