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<blockquote data-quote="baradtgnome" data-source="post: 5369205" data-attributes="member: 2722">Back in the days when I had more 'hobbies' one of which was playing in a rock band and long before I met my wife, I was dating a girl who asked, &quot;What would you say if I told you to choose between me or the band?&quot;&nbsp; I looked deep into her eyes and said, &quot;I would miss you.&quot;There is a lot of advice floating around here, some good, some questionable, and some in the category of your mileage may vary.&nbsp; I have been married 25+ years and can only offer these observations/advice:- Things WILL change.&nbsp; You will either grow together or apart.&nbsp; I recommend you choose to grow together rather than let life have you drift apart.- Agree to love the person as they are, and only expect small compromises in how they live life.&nbsp; Actively make compromises in return.- Talk to your significant other.&nbsp; Then talk some more.- Look for someone who values the parts of you that you value.&nbsp; If you think not growing up is a virtue, shouldn't the person you are going to spend the rest of your life agree?Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for the best.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="baradtgnome, post: 5369205, member: 2722"] Back in the days when I had more 'hobbies' one of which was playing in a rock band and long before I met my wife, I was dating a girl who asked, "What would you say if I told you to choose between me or the band?" I looked deep into her eyes and said, "I would miss you." There is a lot of advice floating around here, some good, some questionable, and some in the category of your mileage may vary. I have been married 25+ years and can only offer these observations/advice: - Things WILL change. You will either grow together or apart. I recommend you choose to grow together rather than let life have you drift apart. - Agree to love the person as they are, and only expect small compromises in how they live life. Actively make compromises in return. - Talk to your significant other. Then talk some more. - Look for someone who values the parts of you that you value. If you think not growing up is a virtue, shouldn't the person you are going to spend the rest of your life agree? Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for the best. [/QUOTE]

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