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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Janx" data-source="post: 5369697" data-attributes="member: 8835">divorce law is varies from state to state.  In California, you're pretty screwed.In texas, not as much.  If I recall, in TX what you owned before the divorce is still yours.  It's only assets gained during the marriage that have to be split up.Its not as big a deal when both parties have comparable salaries, because then, for the most part, the purchasing of stuff would likely be equal.But when it's lopsided, thats where the trouble starts.  Firstly, because couples argue most about money, and the one making the money will be less likely to be the one spending it, hence the arguments.From there, the person with more money will be forced to split assets they feel they paid for and thus own.  This can be made worse with alimony payments, etc.  Which then tend to be abused by the other as they will NOT re-marry deliberately, to keep the payments flowing.I don't have a pre-nup.  I haven't been divorced, and we're coming up on 14 years.  But I totally understand the tactical wisdom of doing a pre-nup.  It's the same thing as the exit clause in any good business plan.  Or for a rock band to denote the split of pay, credit on songs, etc before they start writing, gigging, or actually getting successful.These are things the non-planners feel like is "planning to fail", "putting negative energy into it", and 'sucking the fun out of things".  However, it's better to plan a fair split BEFORE its needed, when nobody's pissed and actually planning revenge.  Without it, it's yet another reason divorces are so ugly, as both sides are trying to take revenge and get as much as possible.  Lawyers don't help the situation.</blockquote>

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