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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Haltherrion" data-source="post: 5375704" data-attributes="member: 18253">Beyond the realm of gaming, this is NOT GOOD. With the information you are providing, you are suggesting that your SO is not very flexible and is going to enforce her value system on your life. Ideally, your SO is more understanding of your hobbies and will allow you your own time. Hell, my wife hates D&D (she has tried it a few times), was raised baptist but still has been quite understanding of letting me do my own thing. Similarly, there are some things she likes to do that I don't care for but I let her go her own way. Since neither of our 'own things' are immoral or illegal, this is a nice accomodation. Your SO unfortunately does not demonstate such wisdom. Unless you want to give up a hobby you apparently enjoy, you need to set your own boundaries and tell her, firmly, NO. In the best outcome, she learns to accept that you will do things she does not like (remember your hobby does not harm her or anyone else). In the worst outcome, you learn something about your intended that makes you, perhaps, reconsider your commitment. I'd give this some serious thought if I were you and I would not, personally, consider caving in. If you really don't care about gaming and have many other hobbies of equal or better enjoyment, sure, toss her a bone. But if you consider this one of your more important outlets, don't give in. Get your relationship to a point where she can accept this or call it off. It's clear cut. I'm 47. I've been married 20 years. My wife can be considered judgemental by some but she knew gaming mattered to me from the beginning and has always been accomodating. I guess it doesn't hurt that early on, before we were even dating she played a succubus in an IFGS live-action RPG but stilll, she isn't a gamer and has plenty of pressure from her upbringing and her parents to not consider gaming 'approrpiate' and she learned to live with it. And yes, she was scantily clad <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /> And yes, I was a shy gaming geek and a dork and let someone else kiss her. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f631.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":eek:" title="Eek!    :eek:"  data-smilie="9"data-shortname=":eek:" /></blockquote>

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