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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 2079321" data-attributes="member: 99">The guys who I game with are not just friends but CLOSE friends.  One of them I've known for almost my entire life and several others I've known for almost half my life.  The shortest friendship in the group is in the 8 year range.And there are occasional times when I'd rather not be gaming with all of them, particularly in certain games.  But these thoughts are fleeting and I'll tell you why.There was another guy we gamed with who I'd known since I was 12 years old (I'm 33 now).  He was the ultimate "casual gamer" who often showed up late to sessions or cancelled at the last minute.  He rarely responded to game-related e-mails between sessions and generally didn't take the game very seriously.  It annoyed me and the other players and there were plenty of times when we said, "Next campaign let's just not invite him.  It isn't like he cares that much about the game and there are clearly other things he'd rather do on many occasions."Two years ago he died.  The rest of us were crushed.  And looking back on it I wouldn't trade any of those games when he came and I was mildly annoyed about his lack of enthusiasm.  Because I realize that even when I wasn't thrilled about the way he engaged the game I still really enjoyed his company and my annoyances with him were petty in comparison to the depth of our friendship.And so today I push aside any small gripes I have with my group as being insignificant in relation to the amount of love I have for these guys.  They are there for me in ways that sometimes even my family is not.  And for that I can overlook a lot of powergaming or taking too long to decide what spell to cast.  For that I can tailor the sort of game I'll run to fit the group rather than hurt their feelings by choosing to run a game that would require me to exclude any of them.It is not lost on me that not everybody is blessed to have the sort of tight-knit, long standing friendships that I've got and I am not going to do anything to put that at risk.</blockquote>

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