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Message: <blockquote data-quote="WayneLigon" data-source="post: 2079425" data-attributes="member: 3649">Since we play in other people's houses we screen pretty heavily. If we invite a new person, we give them four-five sessions to get to know them and see if their playstyle will mesh with ours; we tell them this up front. Now, so far no-one who has come through that period has not become a friend on at least some level. We talk about out of game stuff before the game and after, and there are movie invites and the like mentioned; at some point we say to the new person 'We're all going to see XYZ, wanna come?'We talk and email each other out of the game, and sometimes hang out. Only a couple of times has this ever led to the 'I'll take a bullet for you' level of friendship but it happens. Mostly, though, they need to be people that we'll feel comfortable having over for dinner or being seen in public with, or going to the movies, or whatever.We aren't casual gamers - for the vast majority of us with SO's, kids, regular jobs, etc this is the one consistant fun thing we get to do during the week, so we make plans around it, tell potential dates 'I can go out every night but Friday night',  - so we take who we play with pretty seriously.Anyway, when I invite someone I'll look over what they've posted or written. Usually they'll say 'Intersted in playing X, Y, Z'. If that list is compatible with what we usually like, that's a good sign. I'll be likely to call that person. I'll talk with them for a while, ask some basic questions like 'how long have you been gaming', or 'do you have a problem with meeting on this night every single week'. Then if that sounds promising, we'll do lunch or maybe meet somewhere. Or I may just say 'show up here' so we can look them over and see how well they mesh with our playstyle and personalities. So far there have only been a couple of people we've said 'I think you'd do best to keep looking'. We been lucky, I know, but most of our players are (1) drawn from people that someone in the group knows or has heard about (2) someone who was serious enough to at least put up a notice or posting describing herself and what her gaming interests were.</blockquote>

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