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Message: <blockquote data-quote="DaveStebbins" data-source="post: 2190023" data-attributes="member: 1427">Hasn't been my experience AT ALL. Granted, I'm not a swinger myself, but I have spent quite a bit of time with several of these couples and they have all been great people and, where applicable, great parents. I find their honesty, openness and accepting attitudes has made them better parents than many of the more close-minded poeple whom I know who espouse "traditional" attitudes. As I said, my data population is too small to consider it universal, maybe I've just been lucky in being able to associate with great people, but even the swingers I spent casual time with all certainly seemed no worse (and mostly no different) than the general population.I can certainly see the potential for problems. In addition to the openness and desire for it, adopting that particular lifestyle requires a very high level of communication and respect between a couple for it to work long-term, and I don't think very many couples function well-enough to where I would recommend they consider it. On the other hand, the swingers I've hung out with have all seemed to possess this level of respect and communication with each other, so I can easily believe my exerience is atypical.Good for you. I hope everything works out for you. Accepting and acknowledging that you have preferences different from most people takes a lot of courage. It is even more difficult when you live in a society that is probably less accepting of your preferences than it is of homosexuality. That also means you and your wife and I have something in common. We're all looking for a nice girl to settle down with. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />-Dave</blockquote>

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