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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Herpes Cineplex" data-source="post: 1811097" data-attributes="member: 16936"><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /> FORUM NECROMANCY!!!Though at least CanadienneBacon had a good reason for unearthing this zombie thread and setting it to lurch randomly around the front page.  Judging from the lack of any followup response from dreaded_beast, though, I'm going to guess that he's disappeared on y'all again.Just on the off chance that he comes back and sees this again, I'll back up Chimera: dreaded_beast, you should definitely stop and consider your own behavior and the way you treat other people.  You don't have to be mean about it, just honest.  Give yourself credit for the things you do well, but don't let yourself off the hook for the things you're not so good at.  (Point of reference:  abandoning a gaming group and refusing to even acknowledge them when they try to find out where you've gone is not good.  An apology might be a nice thing to try.)Once you've got your own act together and defused whatever personal dramabombs you've set up around yourself (doing something about this "no sense of humor" thing is an excellent idea, by the way), THEN you can take a fresh look at your possibly-overinsulting gaming buddy and see whether he's targeting you out of real malice or not.  Because honestly, there may be no malice there at all; trust me, some people bond with a little invective-laced humor.  Okay, maybe not so much after high school, but still!  The point is, until you are capable of not taking everything personally and have some command over your own emotions and perceptions, you're never going to be able to really figure out where anyone else is coming from.If you still can't tell whether he's being malicious, then swallow your anger and your defensiveness and whatever sense of righteous indignation you've been brewing up and just ask him, politely and without rancor, what the deal is.  Let him know you're concerned that you seem to be the main target of his insults, and that you'd like it to stop.  Be firm, not weepy or angry.  And if that doesn't get you somewhere, then be nice about telling the rest of the group (via e-mail, if you can't bear to do it face-to-face) that you're sorry for not being able to game with them anymore...then walk away.--apparently there was at least one group who liked you, at least until you blew 'em offryan</blockquote>

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